The stronger and more confident you are, the more likely you will come across people who want to conquer you. Those that do this will loose to their own game without you having to be anything but exactly who you are. If they are smart they will recognize, realize and release their toxic behavior. If not, who wants to involve themselves with unintelligent people in the first place? I know I don’t. And yes, there are different kinds and levels of intelligence.
If someone truly cares for you, they will want to change and grow to be the best version of themselves for you. If they are still living and operating on a lower vibration of pride and selfish behavior, they will drive themselves crazy when you don’t take the bait. Just be yourself, do what you do. Never, EVER feel the need to prove yourself to someone who hasn’t earned that.
Never feel like you lost anything if a person like this temporarily dismisses you. Two things are true: one being you do not want someone who wants to control or own space in your life. An equal partner or friend both gives and receives. They are both strong and soft. They can do this because they respect your confidence and also possess confidence of their own. The second being people who attempt this come back around. They can come back for one of two reasons:
If someone like this comes back with the realization of their behavior and openly acknowledges your value, let them in if you see fit. Especially if they come with an earnest heart of acknowledgment and apology. We are all learning, growing and developing. We all have insecurities and parts of us that need further nourishment. This is part of life. Depending on your current situation and intention, perhaps a second chance will be the right decision.
If someone comes back because they didn’t get their way and they want to try a different tactic of manipulation, just be sure to always trust your own intuition. Ask questions. Someone who purposely avoids or won’t communicate isn’t worth your time. And of course, words are not enough. Actions over time display the inner workings of a man’s heart.
People who play games end up being the losers. Anyone who tries to put you in a competition or wants you to feel like you need to compete is absolutely not worth your time. I already know I am irreplaceable and if you try to play me you will only play yourself. If someone says things such as, you were too good to be true or I didn’t deserve you; well then you were, you are and they don’t. We are not here to be owned by another person, compete for attention and affection, or lessen our own shine and confidence for someone who doesn’t know how to shine without dimming the light of others.
Keep shining. Don’t worry about someone who let you go. If you know your value and what you bring to the table and they slept on you, they will live to regret it. They saved you time and they lost. When they come back around, which they always do, just make sure they come correct. I absolutely believe in forgiveness and growth. I always want to see the good in people and I give second chances because I know I have needed that given to me. I also know that whomever comes in or out of my life will only stay if we both contribute something to the other. That’s where value comes in.
Everyday is another chance to do things differently. We all make mistakes. Just don’t let anyone think they can possess you. You are not a toy on a shelf that can be picked up and put down at the leisure of someone else. If someone bites you, bite their ass back. I bet they won’t do it again. 😉